This will be our second year to honor our son, Hayes Lee, at the March for Babies event in Waco. We are trying to raise $1,388 since he was born on 8-8-13. These funds will directly impact the March of Dimes fight to improve the health of babies by preventing premature birth and birth defects. Please join us in honoring Hayes' fight. Are you Hayes Tough?
My husband and I struggled to get pregnant for over two,
long years. We went through multiple failed IUI’s, visited countless doctors
and faced defeat over and over. I know many of the women in here know how
strong the desire to become a mom can be. It was all I could think about from
the moment I woke up, to the moment I went to sleep each night. We were finally
led to begin the IVF process in December of 2012 and in January of 2013, I
started administering shots to myself every night to get my body ready for IVF.
I was willing to take the sting of daily shots to have the family we had always
prayed for. With many prayers, the first IVF was a success and we finally received
that long awaited phone call to tell us that we were pregnant on March 5. I will
never forget the warmth of those happy tears on that joyous day.
Then, on June 26th, at 20 ½ wee pregnant,
only a few days after we were told we were having a little boy, my water broke.
The feeling of devastation was overwhelming. The doctors calmly explained to us
that I would go into labor at any minute and that at only 20 ½ weeks, our Hayes
would not have a fighting chance because his lungs were not fully developed.
After I was admitted into the hospital, o doctor came into our room and told
us we would need to start thinking about what path we wanted to take and even
suggested we start making funeral arrangements. Those few words by the doctor,
and the sorrowful look that swept across his face, knocked the breath out of me
and I felt as though I couldn’t breathe or move. Cody and I discussed that we
weren’t giving up on our son, would continue our pregnancy, and that praying
would be our only hope. There wasn’t a moment that went by that we weren’t
talking to Jesus. By the grace of God, Hayes stunned the doctors and was I able
to continue my pregnancy, in two different hospitals, on bed rest for 7 more weeks.
Our doctor’s sorrowful looks soon turned into smiles when he would walk into
our room, read the daily verse my husband had written on the white board, hear
our phones playing K-Love, and listen to us praise Jesus for our little boy.
Then, on Aug. 8th, Hayes decided that he was
ready to conquer the world. Hayes entered this world weighing only 2 pounds 6
ounces. (To give you an idea of how small he was, that is about the same weight
of two water bottles.) Before he was whisked off to the NICU, the nurses in the
operating room gently turned him towards my husband and me so we could see our
son. I couldn't help but think about how beautiful he was. That was our baby.
The baby we prayed to have and hold for three very long years. I became a
mother in that moment when our eyes first met. Cody was able to take me once to finally meet Hayes
face to face and we were allowed to take a quick family picture. We weren’t
allowed to hold him because of the machine and wires he was connected to. I
remember looking at his little face and body and desperately wanted to reach
out and hold him. Even as a new mother, I knew I needed to love on him and let
him know that everything was going to be okay. His eyes were so vibrant, which
made it difficult to understand why this was happening.
Hayes was born at 2:53 pm and we were all smiles. We
could once again breath and began to mentally prepare ourselves for many hard
months ahead of us. Then, at 10:00 pm, a nurse came into our room, and with a
shaky voice, she told us that Hayes wasn’t responding to the machines, was struggling
to breathe and we needed to get to him as soon as possible. Fear swept over me
immediately and once again, I couldn’t catch my breath. Cody quickly helped me
into a wheelchair and took me as quickly as he could to the NICU. When we got
to Hayes, the machines connected to his tiny body were so loud, and our little
boy looked so helpless. Questions swirled in my head as to what was happening.
I don’t know how long we were in the NICU with doctors and nurses surrounding
us, but as we looked at our son, Cody asked with tears in his eyes if Hayes was
in pain. When the doctor quietly whispered yes, we had to make our toughest
decision as scared, first time parents, of only a few hours, to stop all the
treatment and machines and let Hayes be with Jesus. We were then finally
allowed to hold him and give him our love for quite some time, which we’re both
thankful for. Hayes fought so hard for 11 hours and 11 minutes just so we could
hold him and kiss him until 2:04 am on the 9th. Hayes took his last
breaths while I was holding him in my arms. The hardest phone call I’ve ever
had to make was in those early morning hours to wake up my Mom and let her know
that we lost Hayes. After I made this tearful and heart-wrenching call, I closed
my eyes and imagined Jesus by my side, lifting Hayes from my arms saying,
"I have him now and he is going to be okay. Heaven now has a new beautiful
angel."
Supporters
I am the nurse who admitted Ginny, held her hand, cried......I will always hold a special place in my heart for Cody, Ginny, and baby Hayes.
I honor of my daughter and her baby to be.
Hayes is a one tough dude and our nephew.
We love Coach Hall.